What exactly happened to 2019? Where did it all go? Honestly, I don't know where it all went. Do you? 2019 was the year of endings, the year of many deaths, and I'm okay with that. Because after a death, if we follow the cycle of life, it means that something will be born. Birth follows death, it's one of our natural laws.
We closed down Calder House in 2019, and although I'm still cleaning up some business loose ends on that, it is done. We've taken back the house as our personal space and let me tell you there is evidence. We no longer are the cleaning fanatics we once were. You can definitely catch a cat fuzz ball here and there.
Purnima and I took a beautiful group to India in January of 2019. Social media constantly reminds me where I was last year. To be honest it seems like a decade ago. I have some beautiful memories to fill my heart.
We lost my mom in May of 2019. If I was to be honest with you, the divine blessed us with her passing. My mom suffered from dementia for several years, and we had truly lost her some time ago. Her soul rests now with my dad. She comes to visit me once in a blue moon in spirit.
She's just checking in.
We lost Grant's mom in June of 2019. Yes barely a month apart. I think those two were in cahoots with each other. LOL! Alice lived a very long life. She transitioned at the age of 93. Incredible long life. She was ready to go, she was tired of fighting the fight. And we gently released her so she could rest eternally. Interestingly, Alice passed exactly on the same day as her husband (Norm), but he passed 24 years prior.
In August of 2019 we lost our best furry friend, Luna (Alaskan Malamute). There isn't a day that we don't think of her. We surely miss our daily walks. She played an big part in keeping us in shape.
We ended the year with some holiday plans that were derailed at the last minute. What a crazy year!
But what I haven't shared is the amazing things that came about in the midsts of the chaos.
We birthed a ceremonial women's sweat lodge on our property and held a half a dozen sweats. Oh if the walls of the lodge could speak.
We made some amazing, deep community relationships. Creating a unique and special bond that I will forever be grateful for.
I walked along the healing journeys of many who came to see me for some assistance. I always feel so honored when they choose me to help.
The year ended with the gift of time to sit, reflect, rest, and take an inward journey. I felt like I was in the chrysalis stage of a pupa.
Stay tuned for what is to come!
So excited to birth some new projects.
Sometimes our marketing approach was to donate a gift certificate. This is a great ways to advertise without any up front costs. Most winners of these gift certificates rarely ever use them.
We were asked by by the Steinbach Art Council to donate some sort of package that we offered at the Calder House and we chose to donate the "Soiree au pizza". The couple who won were celebrating their 2nd year wedding anniversary. Their package included a one night stay, pizza dinner and 2 - 30 minutes hot stone massage.
When our couple arrived at the house you could tell they were really feeling out of their comfort zone. We did the best we could to make them feel at home. We gave them a tour of the house, pointed out the areas they were free to sit and relax.
Our couple had gone up to their room to get settled in, and a few minutes later the gentleman came downstairs and asked: "Where is the TV". I replied: "We don't have a TV for our guests". As that answer sank in, you could see the distress on his face. Off he went back upstairs to talk to his wife. Within a few minutes they both came downstairs and sat at the kitchen table.
I said: "What are you doing?" The man replied: "We are watching you". Back in those early days of our business I did not allow anyone in the kitchen while I created my magic. I was always in my zone, and didn't appreciate anyone in my space. I remember feeling so so uncomfortable. I made suggestions as to where they might sit, like in the gazebo the watch the birds. To be honest with you anywhere else in the house except the kitchen. So they obliged, got up sat in the gazebo for 10 minutes and then came back in, and sat down at the kitchen table.
I took a large breath of air, and let it out ever so slowly. The were so mesmerized by the fact that I was making pizza from scratch. I was boiling my secret sauce and adding all kinds of healthy super foods into my crust. It was really amazing to me how much their minds could not fathom how to make homemade pizza.
I managed to embrace the uncomfortable feelings I was experiencing and allow myself to be out of my comfort zone. That experience made me realize how so many people are disconnected from one of their major sources of life energy - food! It also underlined a huge problems that our society has with their dependency on processed food.
From that day forward, my kitchen was never closed to my guests. They could come and sit and chat. I had the perfect opportunity to share the importance of whole foods, sourcing from farmers who were stewards of the land. Some of our most popular retreat packages were born from this experience. The most popular was "Soiree au pizza". To this day I still hear Grant lament that he misses my pizzas.
I give thanks to this wonderful couple who broke my kitchen barriers, and showed me that the love that comes from my creations in the kitchen are worth sharing with the world.
Never Judge A Book by it's Cover
We were in our second year of business and every once in awhile we would get a little fearful of who would show up.
Grant would sometimes think "What if they steal from us?" and my reply would always be; "We don't attract those kind of people".
One day we received an unusual call from a young man who wanted to create a getaway for his wife. They both worked strange hours and carving time away together was a tricky balancing act for them. He wanted to check in for breakfast and check out after dinner. It was a bizarre request, but typically you check in the late afternoon and check out at 11:00 am the next day.
I went on a hunch and decided to accommodate their strange request. I felt a little unsettled at the strange request for it meant having to do something outside of the box so to speak.
Our guests arrived first thing in the morning in time for their breakfast. When they walked in I think my mouth dropped down to the floor. They were both adorned with piercings and tattoos. I have absolutely nothing against body adornment, it's just that it was so unexpected. This is not your typical type of person who wants to come and stay at a b & b. I could hear my mother's voice in my head saying oh they must be dangerous. Funny how our parent's beliefs will sneak out of your sub-conscious every once in awhile.
When it came time to pay their bill, they were wanting to go out for dinner first, then check out and pay. Grant was feeling unsettled about the timing of this and had thoughts of them going out for dinner and not returning to pay their bill. I myself was starting to wonder if we would ever see our tattooed guests.
The guests did come back, they paid their bill, and thanked us for accommodating their strange request. After they left that night, I did not bother to check their room as it had been a long day. So I left the cleaning till the next day.
First thing in the morning I walked into the room, and there laying on the bed was a big gift bag and a card. Our guests had given us a card with a hundred thank yous written in different languages. The card was signed with a beautiful note thanking us so much for the lovely stay. They were grateful that we chose to accept their strange check in and check out times. In the gift bag was the most beautiful bird bath that you could hang in your garden. They wrote in their note that they really enjoyed the birds during their stay.
Never judge anyone by how they look or by their unusual requests because it does not reveal the truth of who they are. Our guests gave us a beautiful gift of a birdbath, but honestly, the most valuable gift was the lesson we received of not judging a book by it's cover.
In our 2nd year of business, Groupon had just hit the scene with their incredible discounts. We had heard of numerous stories of how it had changed people's businesses for the good and the worst.
When we looked into the marketing opportunity, we decided that we could totally take advantage of their strategy. We were very careful in our planning as we wanted to attract customers that were into wellness. We put together an incredible retreat package that offered a stay in this lovely room (the metal room) with a Reiki session and a pot of herbal tea. I don't remember the details of the cost, but it was an amazing deal.
Our goal was to sell 50 packages and we totally nailed it. We offered upgrades to our package where the customers could add a night, turn their Reiki session into a hot stone massage and add pizza to their stay. Wow what fun!
It was great and we worked hard! But to be honest the best part was the beautiful souls who came. Still to this day we are in contact with most of these customers with many of them who became really dear friends. Truly that deal might of been wonderful for them, but for us it still enriches our lives.
To those 50 couples who came, you were amazing are are still amazing! You helped us grow our business and our offerings.
YOU truly played such an important role in our success and for this we are forever grateful!
We are de cluttering at the Calder House, making space for something new in our lives. What that is exactly we do not know. But we are open to receiving. So we are selling off some antique pieces.
In the photo to the left their are 3 pieces that are for sale. On the left of the photo is a cute dresser with mirror, made of pine circa 1920 assembled with dove tale finish. We are asking $125. The 2nd piece is the old captain's bed comes with head board, foot board, railings, metal frame and box spring. Asking $400 OBO. The 3rd piece is the chair on the far left of the picture ($20) Please reach out if you are interested. First come first serve.
When I get into my deepest thoughts and contemplation this is when the most beautiful words flow